As I mentioned, I’m pregnant, and for the first time – we’re debating on whether or not to find out the sex of our third baby-to-be.
We found out the sex with our first 2 kids the moment we were able to and I wouldn’t have it any other way. As I’ve always said, it’s been a surprise for 20 weeks, and having a human come out of my vagina – another surprise enough for me.
Besides, I’m naturally a control freak. Type A personality all the way – I like to know how things might happen, when it might happen and how to prepare for it. Of course – there’s also the very shallow part of my personality where I’ve never really connected with neutral color clothing. Yellow & green are just so blahhh, and what is up with ducks on everything neutral.
So when friends & our doctor asked if we wanted to know the sex of the baby; surprisingly (even to ourselves) we decided to delay the gratification. Perhaps it’s because we already have one of each, and having a boy or a girl is sorta a moot point.
And if you ask me if I want a boy or a girl – I will give you the canned answer of “of course it doesn’t matter – as long as he/she is healthy” – but secretly, we do have a few reasons why we’ll prefer a boy or maybe a girl.
Why we’re secretly wishing for a boy
- Tyler is the only boy in the family. When we go on summer vacations & family events, Tyler is always the one who ends up coming out looking like a princess with a dress & tiara on him. Having another boy won’t necessary even out the #’s but at least he’ll have a companion.
- Boys require LESS maintenance emotionally & physically. No long hair to brush, braid & style, they can pee anywhere – outside, in a bottle & there’s no toilet seat to clean when you take them to the most disgusting public restroom. There’s no mood swings or drama and I’m talking only toddler years right now. I can’t imagine when both of them hit their teenage years.
- In my experience, boys are sweeter & more lovable towards their mothers. Mommy will always the first woman in their lives, and no matter who he marries later on in life – MOM always came first.
- We already have clothes left over from Tyler if this is a boy. I wouldn’t have to go out and spend buckets amount of money buying stuff the baby will only wear twice before it no longer fits again.
- In this day and age, raising a girl scares the living crap out of me. Samantha is as girly as they come. She’ll cry over everything. I’ll have to teach another girl how to be a strong independent woman who won’t fall prey to victimization or horrid shocking girl behaviors you read in the media. And then there’s the thing my mom always said growing up – “boys can’t get pregnant when they’re 16”.
- Samantha will have 2 younger brothers watching her back when she’s growing up. Who’s going to mess with my daughter now?!
Why we’re secretly ok about a girl
- I had an older sister & a younger brother – my sister and I are BFFs growing and still are. Sisters have a connection with each other that you don’t hear as much from a brother & a sister. I would hate to deprive Sam of that pleasure
- Girls are calmer as a toddler. When I tell my daughter to sit on the red chair and wait for mommy to come back, when I get back, she’ll still be on the red chair; while my son would’ve probably found the highest point he can climb up to.
- I have nothing saved for a girl, so I’ll be forced to go shopping again. J
- Girl stuff are just cuter. There’s a LOT more options. Skorts, skirts, dresses, capris, shorts, pants, leggings, etc.. it’s like playing dress up all over again.
So did you find out the sex of your kids? When? Did you have a preference?